the list.

the ideal...

• book worm
• finds pleasure/solace/comfort in the ocean or being at the beach
• adventuring soul... likes to be outside, in the forest, exploring and investigating new sights. 
• likes what most people would call crappy weather - fog, mist, and torrential down pours. 
• won't mind when there's a storm and i grab them by the wrist to run with me outside
• is accepting of my quietness and is content in either being comfortably silent with me, or has a way of talking that engages me and gets me talking. 
• large and diverse selection of {good} music and is happy to exchange new finds, and old favorites. 
• dog person
• a sense of curiosity; to the people in his life and the world surrounding him
• is slow to anger and is careful in his jealousy 
• ease of smile 
• does not hesitate when a question or conflict arises; does not avoid or quit contact but is honest and straightforward with thoughts and feelings {not defensive and derisive}
• understands relationships are a bond between two people who are best friends, partners in crime, a duo, but also that each party needs some space to spend individually 
• is an artist in some way... a painter, a musician, a writer, a photographer, anything. 
• no ego, is careful not to be selfish when avoidable. 
• sex is fun; a chance to explore the other person with tenderness, and affection and mistakes can be made that are laughed off and tried again. things are talked about and questioned without judgement; a learning and exploratory experience. 
• eyes i can swim in
• feelings and thoughts can be exchanged sometimes just through body language and shared glances
• likes to cook together, or take turns cooking for one another
• enjoys well written, or well spoken, words. beautiful words. poetry, quotes, especially moving excerpts from novels.
• goofy and silly but also genuine and sincere
• physical displays of affection are tender, but not smothering. understands that i feel most connected when i can feel the presence of the other; any small form of touch. accepts it, revels and indulges in it. but never smothering. 
• observant of their own needs and moods, and also of others. 
• contagious laughter
• comfortable in his being and his skin
• brown eyes
• family is important and fundamental part of their life
• netflix, beer, pizza and sex are a good date night. 

the negotiable...

• well dressed 
• good grammar on social media platforms, as well as through phone and email contact, well versed well written..